FAQs About Anxiety Therapy in New Haven, CT


I’m not sure I’m ready to start. How can therapy in New Haven help me?

The reality is, many who first come to see us don’t “feel ready” or “aren’t sure.” That’s perfectly normal! Therapy can provide support, problem-solving skills, and enhanced coping strategies which are more effective than simply talking to a friend or family member. Think of us as an advisor or consultant to provide a non-biased, educated perspective on specific problems you may have or long-standing patterns getting in the way of achieving your full potential. We help guide you in the direction of a solution, teaching you along the way to act as your own guide. The benefits you obtain from counseling and therapy depend greatly on how much you put into the process and practice what you learn. Some of the benefits of therapy include:

  • Achieve a better understanding of yourself, your goals, and values.
  • Acquire skills for improving your relationships.
  • Discover resolutions to the concerns that led you to seek counseling.
  • Learning new, better, and healthier ways to cope with stress and anxiety.
  • Manage anger, grief, depression, and other emotional pressures more effectively.
  • Improve communication and listening skills.
  • Change unhelpful behavior patterns and develop new more effective patterns.
  • Learn new problem-solving techniques with your family, partner, or work.
  • Improve your self-esteem and boost your self-confidence.


How does it work? What do I do in sessions?

We tailor our approach to your specific needs. We realize no two people or situations are like and therefore no two sessions are alike. In general, you can expect to discuss the current challenges in your life, any personal history relevant to your issue, and report progress (or any new insights gained) from the previous therapy session or outside of your session. We utilize research, exercises, books, and other resources in our session and we usually have you work on these skills outside of therapy. By the time our journey is completed together, the goal is that you are able to act as your own therapist!


I’ve never talked to anyone before and I’m used to handling things on my own. Aren’t people who go to therapy weak?

No, they are not weak at all. People who ask for help when they need it and have the courage to reach out are the strong ones. They are the ones who choose thriving over surviving. Everyone needs help now and then – even us! In our work together, we will explore and identify your strengths and weakness. We will identify the blind spots that are contributing to your struggles. We will teach you how to turn your weakness into strengths and restore balance in your life, so moving forward, you can face your problems head on with confidence and clarity.


How long will it take?

This is specific to each individual. What we can say is that since we focus on developing a collaborative relationship and implementing a tailored approach with techniques that are proven to work, the majority of our clients are relatively short-term. We know this work is hard, so we work hard to make it as effective and efficient as possible. Everyone’s situation is unique to them and the length of time it takes to accomplish your goals greatly depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek counseling in the first place.


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How often do we meet?

The short answer is as often as you prefer, schedule permitting of course! However, initially I recommend once per week to help build a comfortable working relationship and to develop an accurate understanding of who you are, your background, and a thorough understanding of your needs so we can design a specific plan of action. Once we feel that progress has been made or your symptoms have improved, we can reduce frequency of sessions to biweekly, monthly, or as needed.


What are the benefits of out-of-network/private pay?

Being out-of-network or choosing to pay privately (without insurance) ensures your confidentiality and privacy. I do not need to release your records to any third party without your consent. Also, when using your insurance, I must diagnose you with a mental health condition that will become part of your permanent medical record. Furthermore, I must continually justify ongoing treatment and care by documenting “medical necessity” for treatment. If you choose to pay privately or pursue out of network benefits, information about the nature of your treatment and the issues discussed in sessions will remain solely between you and I. Finally, your out-of-pocket may be about the same with in-network anyway. Today’s average deductible for mental health coverage is $1500-3000. By the time you meet your deductible of even $1000, you would have already paid for approximately 10 sessions. Since our average time in treatment is 8-12 sessions, most people find that paying out-of-pocket for counseling makes better financial sense too.


Why shouldn’t I just take medication?

Medication can be effective, but alone it cannot solve all issues. Often it is simply a temporary band-aid and in some cases, can bring about additional challenges (i.e., side effects). Sometimes medication is helpful in conjunction with counseling – and even recommended. However, our work together is designed to explore the problems you are experiencing and expand on your strengths so that you are empowered to creating permanent change and accomplish your personal goals.


How can I get the most out of therapy?

It is important to understand that you will get quicker and more significant results from therapy if you actively participate in and commit to the process. This includes taking chances, being open, showing up on time and attending sessions regularly, doing the homework and being patient as you allow the process to work. Imagine how many years you’ve spent developing some of the relationship dynamics, insecurities, or negative self-talk that may be keeping you from reaching your goals. It can take a while to unlearn these bad habits and patterns.

The purpose of therapy is to educate and help you to bring what you learn back into your life so you don’t need to come anymore. Beyond the work we do in your therapy sessions, we are big advocates for implementation of techniques and homework outside of our sessions together. Since our session is only 45-50 minutes long, the fastest way to see a positive change is to start implementing these skills into your daily life.

Our ideal clients are those who:

  • Desire change but might not know what to do or where to start.
  • Are taking steps to improve their world and those around them.
  • See inward reflection as beneficial.
  • Are reliable and committed to meeting together.

Contact us today if you have any more questions!


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